Five tips for asking better questions

Five tips for asking better questions Now that I am committed to living on a farm, which is sort of the anti-New York City, visiting New York City no longer brings up flashbacks to a really, really difficult lifestyle. Instead, New York fills my head with ideas. The first one is a billboard I saw as soon as I got off the plane: A good question is the new answer. That rings true to me. I have been writing about asking questions for a long time. Its the best way to have a meaningful conversation and its the best way to rope in a mentor or look like a star performer. People spend more time thinking about answers than questions, but its the questions that make you look smart. 1. Good questions require creative thinking. This has always been true, I think. Good questions are fundamentally creative. But today, when all facts are available to all people, its the questions that have become most important. To get to the answer, you have to ask the right question in a search bar. But also, to differentiate yourself in the workplace, you need to focus on questions, since answers are a commodity. 2. When youre lost, look for questions, not answers. As my career shifts, I find that the key to keeping the shift moving in a productive way is to ask good questions. Its ironic, because one of the most frequent questions I get from people is, Whats the best way to make a career change? And the answer is to ask much more insightful questions than that one. For example, I know I want to write about the farm, but Im not sure how to do it. So Ive been asking questions about how photos fit into blogs and what is the intersection of farming, family, and business? 3. Think of your career path as a question path. I am also spending time redecorating the farm house. Actually, to call it redecorating is a stretch, since the farmer moved in twenty years ago when the couple living there died, and did not do one single thing to redecorate. So the house is a time capsule from the 1940s when it was designed. Anyway, I wouldnt say redecorating is a career change, but maybe just a vocation vacation. Do you know that term? You try out a career for a few weeks? Thats what Ive been doing. And I realized that Id only want to be an interior designer for my own house. But I like learning about interior design. And I am realizing that any career shift is about learning and exploring until you land in the right spot. Questions I am asking lately: What is Steampunk Style? (Turns out I adore it.) Heres an example from the movie The Golden Compass: How do you create a space that has texture? I took three conference calls while I was wandering through ABC Home. I thought that if I spent time there, I would somehow learn from being surrounded by examples, like this one: Some of you will ask what these questions have to do with career change. But a career is not a history of how you make money. A career is a learning path. Its what direction you take in your personal learning. 4. Asking good questions takes work â€" that you have to do yourself. This struck me during my New York trip as well, because one of my best friends is Lisa Nielsen, who leads New York City Public School technology initiatives and writes a blog about education reform. She is a big advocate of me homeschooling my kids. She says that kids dont need to learn subjects. Kids need to learn how to ask questions about things they are passionate about. And thats no small task: First, you have to learn how to find your passions. Then you have to learn how to ask questions. Most adults cant do either thing well, which is a good argument for taking kids out of school, I have to admit. 5. Field other peoples questions to get better at asking questions. Finally, the last thing I did in New York is visit Seth Godins office, to interview him for a webinar. The biggest criticism I received after the interview is that my commentary about peoples questions was obnoxious. This is true. I am becoming increasingly impatient with questions that reflect poor self-knowledge. And with questions that reflect a penchant for finding roadblocks instead of finding ways to soar. Neither of these bad question types seem genuine, or useful. (Here are some examples of questions like that.) No one complained about Seth during the webinar though, because he had a better approach to the questions. He tells people what they are really asking. So the webinar was really a webinar on, among other things, how to ask a good question. The webinar also served as a good lesson for me. Instead of complaining about the question I get, I should answer the question by sharpening the question. People almost always know the answer to the real question but the real answer is often scary. So we conjure up an ancillary question to distract us from reality. I also need to be more kind about peoples questions, by helping them figure out what their real question is. And the process helps me do it with my life, too. For example, Im not sure my real question is What is Steampunk Style? My real question is how does style fit into my career right now?